by Julie Robinson
Here is the second installment to The Flip Side--a series of interview questions and answers about dating, relationships, and sex. As you will see, my responses are short, not-all-that-sweet, and pretty damn telling. . . .
I met a woman last week who met a man for the first time after chatting with him online. He talked her into getting into his car, drove her to his house up in the foothills (she thought he was taking her to dinner at a restaurant), and came out of the bathroom without his pants on. Men who are that audacious scare me. Women who are that stupid scare me more.
Unfortunately, dating and fear go hand in hand. Besides obvious safety issues—don’t accept a drink except from a bartender or server, don’t let a brand new date know where you live—I’m always a little scared when I date someone new. What on earth are we going to talk about? Do I look okay? What is this coffee going to do to my breath? Will he like me as much as I like him? What lame stupid thing will come out of my mouth this time?
A little worrying isn’t a bad thing, however. It’s similar to having a touch of stage fright—the performance is always more vibrant with a bit of butterflies. I do better on dates when I care enough about the guy to think through what I’m wearing OR saying OR what might be accidentally getting caught in my teeth. It shows I care.