What? Not! Whoas . . . Home for the Holidays

We have all had those awkward moments when we bring a boyfriend/girlfriend home to meet the family.  Will they love her as much as I do?  What will they think of me for choosing him?  What the hell was I thinking?


The What? Not! Dating Whoas (or Woes) asks you to tell us one story related to bringing your love home for the holidays. . .

Why I Hit Delete! When You Emailed Me Last Week: Online Dating Tips for Clueless Guys

by Julie Robinson

I realize that you never heard from me after sending a friendly little email my way on a popular website you pay good money for so you can date women. 

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  ". . . the reasons you think they get

purged from our Inboxes have
nothing to do with it." 

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I also realize that you are not entirely sure why this is the case.  Did I get your email?  Did I read it?  Maybe I’m really busy?  Have I already found a new boyfriend?  No, no, no, and—uh—no.  

There are probably a thousand reasons why emails from really good guys go unanswered by women on today’s online dating sites, but the reasons you think they get purged from our Inboxes have nothing to do with it.  Chances are you sent an initial bad email as your greeting.  Open up some of the doozies you’ve sent off to the women you are not meeting and see if they fit the bill.

The Not-Quite-Perfect Man

“You’ve worked too hard and come too far to sell yourself
down the river for some guy who makes you laugh harder
than anyone has ever made you laugh . . . . but somehow
makes you feel constantly miserable and insecure”

—He’s Just Not That Into You (179)

by Julie Robinson

Clint’s face belongs on billboards and his cock should be enshrined in the Sex Hall of Fame—if there is such a thing.  He was the most amazing man I met on so many levels that I remained his Beck-And-Call-Girl for over three years after breaking up six weeks into the relationship.  I’d probably still call him today if I had his number in my phone.  Good thing I don’t—this guy is toxic for me.


Many of the guys I interact with have one or two characteristics that make it nearly impossible to give them up even though they make me completely crazy.  Clint and I started off so incredibly hot.  I remember our first date when he was standing behind me talking in his rich, deep voice—and I remember wishing, “Please let that be Clint.” When I turned around I was even happier.  This tall, thin man with sapphire blue eyes and dark hair was everything I wanted in a man.  Almost immediately I found out about his stint in prison and previous drug addiction.  I was so smitten that as those red flags waved in front of my face I completely ignored them.  The sex was loud, hot, and frequent.  I was also completely intrigued about being involved in a sober relationship.